Working with conviction integrity in our feelings of anger towards these people. Write a letter in which you detail all the reasons our resentment but not send it. Identify triggers the resentment (memories, situations, thoughts) and work to lessen its impact. In recent months, Coen Brothers has been very successful. Not be mulling our thoughts of resentment. Concentrate on a different and absorbing task. Try to see things from different points of view. For example, you can try to take the views of all those involved.
So it will have a broader and more realistic view. Try to forgive, but it makes no sense that we try to forgive if you do not want. Started by strive to accept that life is often unfair to all and we are not an exception. Consider our life and everything that happens to you, good or bad, as a series of missions or work to be performed. Some will be welcome and others will be unpleasant and painful, but all we can s learn something that will help us to grow. Try to improve our self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Instead of focusing on the behavior of the other person and the evil which we did or what should be done now to remedy it, treat of focus on one and what we can do to improve our lives in the future. Ask friends or relatives for help.
Share our feelings with them and ask them to give you a touch when we slip into resentment. Change the thoughts about how unfair that is life or bad luck that we have better by thoughts of change, hope and a future. Cultivate optimism. Than the things that have left us wrong so far, is not to say that we will go wrong always. In addition, provided us five steps to take into account namely: who they are, or it is, who has done us damage once has been identified to each person who saves is resentment towards determining how this resentment has affected us, and develop a new way of looking at your past, present and future life do, generate a change of attitudes favouring us once identified each person towards who keep resentment and how this resentment has affected us, you need to develop a new way to look at our life past, present and future if the negative effects of resentment still persist, then need to go back to step 1 and begin again. In short, tells us Alcione, CL. that one of more frequent and more difficult to overcome negative emotions is resentment. Those who have done us damage remain our debtors although much time has passed. It doesn’t matter that they are dead or alive, since the domain of dark memory does not respect borders. There is no difference in which hatred and desire for revenge overrunning in our hearts from childhood or the recent past. Our psychic time is immobile. Why always these memories haunt, to emerge dressed as various fears when the opportunity presents itself conducive. These fears are the poison that we must test each time. Original author and source of the article.